Tips for a Successful First Date
If you want to get a partner then you can't escape the fact that you first have to get a date.
How to Get a Date?
Decide what you want ...
To get what you
want, you need to know what you want ... and don´t want ...
To start your
project, make a list of what you want in a potential partner. Divide this list
into the qualities that you absolutely require and ones which you would like
but can live without. This will give you your checklist against which you can
compare your potential future mate. Try not to be too restrictive, as you may
screen out a wealth of suitable partner material. In the early stages of
meeting, investigate subtly whether this person is likely to live up to your
essentials. If he doesn´t make the grade then there really is no point in
continuing the relationship. Bear in mind, however, that no one is perfect and
that if you are expecting perfection, you may be searching for a long time to
come.
Ways to meet ...
The easiest ways to
meet men in this day and age is via either speed dating or online dating sites.
Check out our Online Dating page. Despite these easy options, please DO get
yourself out and about and talk to people ... talk to anyone ... talk to
everyone! The more sociable you become, the easier it will be to chat with
potential partners. You can meet people anywhere ... work, the supermarket, on
the bus. Join clubs and societies, join a gym or take up a sport. Keeping
yourself busy and having an active social life will make you a more interesting
person and less prone to romantic desperation. Getting fit will make you
healthier and more energetic and therefore even more attractive than you
already are.
Look out for number 1 ...
In the early stages
of dating, you absolutely must be your own best friend. This does not mean
being selfish and trampling over the feelings of others but it does mean
looking out for yourself and avoiding some of the main pitfalls of early dating.
To learn 10 sure-fire ways to blow a promising relationship on the first date
click here.
Without being
selfish, your attitude about yourself and others speaks volumes to your
potential other half. Therefore, do not put yourself down, or anyone else for
that matter. That includes your rotten old ex. If you have negative opinions of
the opposite sex, then you need to work on losing them or you will soon find
yourself floundering in the world of dating. Stay positive in love and in life!
In order to love
yourself first, you will NOT allow yourself to be swept off your feet by your
desire for love and attention. You will keep your feet firmly on the ground and
stay in an open, receptive state of mind, in order to learn as much as you can
about any man that you meet. This will allow you to find out whether he meets
your criteria. Before you get carried away by the chemistry between the two of
you, give yourself the chance to get to know him, without giving your heart
away to someone you do not yet know well enough to trust.