Forgiveness - How to Forgive Others
Are you still
holding on to nightmares of that ex from years ago? The one who got away? Or
the one you spent 20 years of your life with? Are you still grumbling and
mumbling about guys and why they are a waste of space? Are you angry and
resentful towards men... or one man in particular? Or perhaps just the ones
that you have had relationships with? Or who have let you down?
If you are, then I'm here to tell you that it is time to forgive. Forgive those men! Forgive yourself! Reclaim your power, your sanity and your peace of mind by learning to forgive. Find tips and help on forgiveness and how to forgive others when they do you wrong.
What is Forgiveness?
Simply... letting
go of the anger and resentment that you feel towards another for something you
feel that they have done to you that was wrong... or how they have
"made" you feel. Usually whatever has happened is in the past and our
resentment and anger keep it alive in the present because we feel justified in
holding on to our negativity around the situation or person. Now, I am not
saying that your feelings are not justified, just that they may not be serving
you. And I am not belittling your hurt. So please keep reading to find out why
and how you can start to forgive.
Forgiveness is not
generally going to be easy. It can take time and involves accepting what has
happened and even looking at how you may have contributed to the situation. At
the very least it is about losing the victim mentality and looking at what
needs to change in the future. Forgiveness is about releasing YOUR feelings;
it's not really even about the other person or people involved.
Why Should I Forgive People Who Have Done Me Wrong?
For the sake of
your health and sanity, you should try to forgive others for what you feel that
they have done to you. Resentment and anger wear us down, physically and
mentally. These negative feelings become bad mental habits, bleeding into all
our relationships and causing harm and disharmony everywhere. When you realise
that it is yourself that you are hurting by refusing to forgive and not the
person who has wronged you, perhaps you will find it in your heart to let go.
What is Forgiveness NOT?
Forgiveness is not
about excusing or condoning someone's behaviour. It is not about staying in a
relationship where someone's behaviour is unacceptable. You need to do whatever
it takes to get away and stay away from someone who is abusive towards you.
It's not about trusting the other person again. Some people are not to be
trusted - they will continue to let you down if you will let them. So don't use
forgiveness as an excuse to stay in a relationship with a man who is not worthy
of you. Often a decision to forgive may involve a decision to stop seeing or
contacting the person who has wronged you.
Acceptance
Accept that what
has happened has happened. You have been hurt but you survived and you are not
going to let this matter spoil any more of your life. Find the willingness to
let it go, for the sake of yourself, even if you don't know how to do it.
Resentment and anger spoil your chance of a happy life. For your own sake, it's
time to forgive.
Forgiving Others Conclusion - So Are You Willing to Forgive?
So, have I
convinced you that it is time to forgive - to let go of past hurts and
resentment? To stop letting them seep into your current relationships and
allowing them to taint your life. Forgiveness isn't easy but it is important...
so make it a gift that you gie to yourself and others. Release yourself from
the bondage of the past and let the new, loving, forgiving you rise to the
surface.
P.S. Don't forget
that forgiveness doesn't mean that you should take him back - only men who have
proven their worth will be entitled to claim that prize.