How To Get A Guy To Commit?
So you want
commitment? Your relationship is great but he seems unwilling to take that
final step.
HowTo Get A Guy To Commit?
First Priority - Change Tack
If you've been
nagging him to meet your needs or trying to persuade him why he should commit
to you then stop now. That won't get a guy to commit. Stop nagging, moaning,
criticising, whining, blaming or any of the other tactics that some women use
to try and get their own way. Negative attention tells him that he has you
right where he wants you and that can mean a licence to take you for granted.
Stop giving him any form of negative attention. If necessary, stop giving him
any attention whatsoever. He will probably enjoy his extra space at first.
However, sooner or later, he will start to worry that he may be losing you, and
this is when he will begin to realise your value.
Get Back to Dating and What Attracted Him to You in the First Place
If he is taking you
for granted, move your relationship back a step to shake his complacency. Try
to limit your expectations of what he should and shouldn't be doing for you
during this time. Read up on the rules of dating and go back to them. Some
examples are don't chase him and don't always make yourself available when it
suits him. Change some of the routines that you have gotten into; for example,
if you always see him on a certain night, arrange something else and tell him
you can't make it. Get your own life together and become the type of woman he
will find irresistible.
Get back to the
things you did in the beginning which made him want to be with you originally.
Men much prefer activities to talking so, if you've stopped doing the things
that you did together when you first met, start doing them again. More fun =
more attraction for a man. Stop being so serious and get on with having fun.
Reignite the spark in your relationship and watch his passion for you overtake
his fear of commitment.
Tell Him How You Feel
If you want to get
a guy to commit, you need to know how to talk to him. Make sure what you say
comes from a positive place and that you are not ranting, blaming or getting
angry at him. Tell him all the reasons why you love being in a relationship
with him and why you want to make that a more committed relationship. Reassure
him that you are not trying to force him into anything that he's not ready for
but you want him to try and understand how you feel. Be open to hearing his
side of the story without criticism or judgement.
Once you have told
him this once, let the subject go for a while. Don't keep harping on about it,
or making it clear that this issue is affecting your happiness. If he withdraws
after you broach the subject, do not panic. Let him go and do not go running
after him. Give him time and space to think about what you have said and how he
feels about this. He will be back in his own time. Let him reach his own
conclusions about what he wants from your relationship.
Listen to Your Heart
If this man isn't
making you happy then listen to your instincts. If your heart is telling you
that it isn't quite right, but you're reluctant to get out, then why? Your
relationship starts with you. Don't settle for being in a relationship that
doesn't make you happy just so you don't have to be alone. Believe in yourself
and love yourself before any man.
If you haven't been
having much success with dating and relationships generally then find out why
and learn what works with men. There is so much advice out there that can
really help you to get a guy to commit. Start with the suggestions and
materials on this site. Even if you don't like what you are reading, open your
mind to the possibility that there may be some truth in it and just give some
of it a go. What have you got to lose if what you are doing now isn't working?
Conclusion
I hope I have given you some answers. The truth of the matter is that you can't always get a guy to commit to you, no matter how much you want it. But you can stack the odds in your favour just by being that special woman who stands out from the crowd by believing in herself and knowing what works both for you and him.